The veils of separation between us are falling. When a friend’s sister died recently, I felt my friend’s pain and cried as if her grief were my own. I didn’t hang onto the grief, but the experience amazes me as I understand how deeply connected we all are. As an executive a few years ago I wore such a protective emotional armor that I felt disconnected from my emotions and pretty much everyone else. But with some work and grace that has fallen away and the true connectedness of life is revealing itself more each day.
Not Just for Friends
About a month ago, an acquaintance committed a very hurtful and illegal act intended to cause me stress and anxiety. I’ve always been correct with him and kept my integrity, but he has challenged me at each turn to stand up for myself and set my limits. When I received the news of what he’d done, I felt so upset and stressed, that I couldn’t sleep. The next day I sought legal counsel. In meditation, I went into the depths of my own anxiety and wept until my pain disappeared. Then something surprising and shocking happened. As I slipped deeper into the experience, I felt the man’s pain behind his actions. What he’d done wasn’t personally against me, but a reaction to his own suffering.
The experience took me closer to Truth. The great Truth of all wisdom traditions reveals that we are all one. For a long time I thought, “yeah, right, I get it.” But it wasn’t until that deep moment in the heart of pain with someone who I’d been at odds with, that I understood what it truly meant. His pain was my pain.
This is the core of wisdom traditions too. “Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you.”
When you begin to feel that experience of connectedness — and not just to people you like and get along with — the power of that practice begins to make sense. When we hurt others, we’re hurting ourselves. It’s as simple and clear as that.
A Deeper Awakening
More and more people, especially empaths, are awakening to this connectedness as we feel what others feel. We know the importance and power of our thoughts, words, and actions. We know how bringing light to suffering can shift a situation and create a foundation for healing.
In my meditation, I sent love energy to the pained man. The next times our paths crossed, I still kept my distance. I know that he is who he is and will likely continue to be hurtful and create pain for others until he’s ready to shift. I understand where he is and maintain my healthy boundaries out of self-respect.
What about you? Have you noticed you’re feeling more in tune with the world around you? I’d love to hear about some of your experiences too.
Copyright Debra Moffitt, 2017.