by Debra Moffitt – Copyright 2017 – All rights reserved. Check out the audio interview here.
If you’ve been feeling extremely sensitive lately, don’t despair, you may be an empath and don’t know it. What’s an empath? According to expert and bestselling author, Dr. Judith Orloff, “An empath is a person who is very intuitive, very open, very sensitive, and sometimes introverted. We love to give to others, but unfortunately we take on the emotions, physical symptoms, and angst of the world into our own bodies.” This results in feelings of overload, stress, and exhaustion. Dr. Orloff, who is a psychiatrist and an empath, shares tools to maximize an empath’s gifts while not absorbing the negative energy of the world.
About twenty percent of the population are empaths, but this number is rapidly increasing. Three types of empaths exist including, physical, intuitive, and emotional. She emphasizes the importance of meditation, shielding visualizations, and setting clear boundaries with energy vampires. Orloff says that her own response to the added stress of today is to do more meditation.
One of the big challenges I’ve faced as an intuitive empath is knowing what’s mine and what belongs to someone else. Feelings of anxiety, worry or fear may creep in or I may feel a physical back ache or an emotional broken heart which actually belongs to someone else. Dr. Orloff gives this great tool which I’ve used often to check out if it’s yours or someone else’s. Escape to the bathroom to get back into your own energy. Or move about 20 feet away from someone to test how you feel differently. If the energy shifts you’ll be more clearly able to discern if what you’re feeling belongs to you or is related to someone who may be in a room with you.
The Empath’s Survival Guide also gives guidance about jobs and career paths. While many empaths may work in healing professions, those who go into sales or high pressured, intense work environments with open plan offices will likely not fare well. Home office jobs can be a great option. And even those in healing professions must learn how to not take on the energy of their patients.
It’s also important to know one’s own needs. As an empath, I need a lot of alone time and silence to process and re-energize. Nature offers a great escape and an immediate relief from the strain of being in crowds and I don’t do well in urban environments for very long periods of time. I don’t hug people who I don’t feel comfortable with and I say so, kindly, even if others may not like it. If you’re an empath, you may also need your own space and prefer to sleep alone, and your partner needs to understand and accept that.
The Guide is a good manual for partners, friends, and family of empaths to help others understand how we function. Listen in to more advice from Dr. Judith Orloff in this great conversation we had on UnityFM. We also talk about the joys and not just the challenges. Dr. Orloff also has a special message for light workers, “Light workers work in the dark. I don’t think anyone should be upset about that. There’s darkness and there’s fear. But that’s why we’re here.” She reminds us that if you don’t feel like you fit in the world it’s because you’re here to help create a better world.
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