“Energy doesn’t lie.” – Debra Moffitt
Whether you’re aware of it or not, what you say means very little if the energy behind your words is expressing something different. Let me give you an example. If you invite guests and they say, “Mmm, nice homemade veggie soup,” but their energy says, “Gag, I hate soup,” then it creates confusion. In addition, your guests will likely get your homemade soup again, even if they didn’t like it because they said they liked it. That can’t be good for anyone! No one’s happy in the end.
With me they won’t get soup a second time because I’ll usually feel the energy – consciously – and either make them aware of it, or politely let it go and remember the next time they come to dinner that they don’t like soup at all.
Why’s this important? It’s important to be in alignment thoughts (energy), words, and actions to create clarity. I believe that more than anything creating clarity gives a true sense of direction.
Another example: An acquaintance invites you to dinner. They say, they want to have you to dinner, but energetically, you can feel them pushing you away. What they really want and need is some alone time. What do you do? I will often say clearly what I feel. If the person I’m conversing with isn’t very self-aware, then they will often deny or refuse the conversation. If they’re self-aware and truly open to being in the moment and in relationship with me, it completely moves the relationship to a new level of honesty and openness.
The conversation might go something like this:
Me: “Hey I know you invited me to dinner, but I get the impression that you’d rather do something else. What’s your feeling?”
My friend: “No. No. All’s good. I’m fine.”
Allow space for silence that accepts and embraces whatever is without attachment.
My friend: “You know, you’re right. I’ve been really tired lately. Mind if we reschedule for Saturday?”
Me: “Perfect. I have some work I can finish up instead. Let’s do it!” For me it’s important not to be attached to the outcome and allow the energy to be what it is. Being conscious of your energy breaks open a whole new world of experiences and possibilities.
Some things you can do to become more aware of your own energy:
- Meditate every day. This is essential to getting to know your own thoughts, feelings and attitudes.
- Journal. Journaling creates a space where you can allow your self to express without worrying about others judging. It creates a space for self-discovery.
- Breathing. Not sure of how you feel when someone asks you what you want? Relax and breathe into the moment.Check in with what your body’s saying. Then make a decision.
Getting to know your own energy takes time and practice. Enjoy the journey!
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